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Upcoming 40 Hour Mediation Training St. Louis

Upcoming 40 Hour Mediation Training St. Louis

  Want to expand your practice and income? Become a divorce mediator.  With this 40 hour training (added to your Master’s Degree in mental health or Juris Doctorate) you could become a court-approved mediator, earning $200+/hour to assist divorcing families resolve custody issues.  Since the Illinois Supreme Court has mandated mediation for divorcing couples who cannot agree on a custody plan, the demand for mediators has skyrocketed. This course is designed to provide participants with a clear understanding of the role of mediator as it differs from that of legal advocate, judge and counselor. The five day training will include videotaped demonstrations, lectures and discussions as well as role-play and coaching. We will discuss alternative dispute resolution strategies, domestic violence issues, financial and custody matters, and family dynamics. Participants will receive a detailed course manual.  This training is approved for 40 hours of CLE/CEU credits. Completion of the 40-Hour (5-day) course meets the requirements of Illinois Supreme Court Rule 99 and Missouri Supreme Court Rule 88 to be a court-approved mediator(local requirements may vary).   Hope to see you there,     Marta J. Papa   “The Divorce Whisperer™” & President of Marta Papa PC Training Details WHEN:  April 3, 2013        8:30 a.m. – 5:30 p.m.                          __                April 7, 2013        8:30 a.m. – 5:30 p.m. WHERE:  The Seven Gables Inn  26 N Meramec  Saint Louis MO 63105  Ph: 1-314-863-8400 COST:   $1500         (IL Attorneys +$40) To register,  call 314-862-0202 Testimonials “Marta Papa demonstrated an enthusiasm and excitement for the subject matter...

Short + Long-Term Goals to Set When Leaving Your Spouse

YOU’VE DECIDED TO LEAVE.  SO WHAT DO YOU DO NOW? •      SHORT TERM GOALS 1)         START SAVING MONEY. 2)         START KEEPING A JOURNAL OF ANY MARITAL MISCONDUCT WITH DATES AND TIMES. 3)         OPEN A BANK ACCOUNT IN YOUR NAME, ONLY. 4)         ESTABLISH CREDIT IN YOUR OWN NAME, IF YOU HAVEN’T ALREADY. 5)         FIND AND MAKE COPIES OF ALL IMPORTANT DOCUMENTS, INCLUDING THE LAST 3 YEARS OF TAX RETURNS. 6)         TO GET DIRECTION, MAKE AN APPOINTMENT WITH AN ATTORNEY FOR INFORMATION AND EVALUATION ON YOU SPECIFIC CASE.  BRING ANY DOCUMENTS YOU HAVE. 7)         INVESTIGATE ALL YOUR ASSETS, DETERMINE THEIR VALUE, AND CONSIDER WHETHER YOUR SPOUSE MAY HAVE ANY HIDDEN ASSETS. 8)         EVALUATE WHERE YOU WILL LIVE.  IF YOU WILL BE MOVING, CHECK OUT THE HOUSING MARKET AND RENTALS TO DETERMINE COST OF LIVING. 9)         ARRANGE FOR THE CAR TO BE IN TOP WORKING ORDER. 10)       SCHEDULE YOUR DENTAL WORK AND MEDICAL CHECKUPS BEFORE LEAVING, FOR BOTH YOU AND THE CHILDREN. 11)       MAKE CERTAIN YOU HAVE AN ADEQUATE WARDROBE FOR WORK. •       LONG TERM GOALS:        CREATING A FINANCIAL PICTURE OF YOUR FUTURE. 1)         EVALUATE YOUR PRESENT FINANCIAL CONDITION AND JOB SITUATION. 2)         DRAW UP A MOCK BUDGET OF WHAT IT WILL COST YOU TO LIVE SEPARATELY. 3)         WITH INPUT FROM AN ATTORNEY, FIGURE OUT APPROXIMATE INCOME AND EXPENSE TO DETERMINE SPOUSAL SUPPORT AND CHILD SUPPORT. 4)         CALCULATE YOUR SEPARATE INCOME. 5)         SET GOALS FOR YOU CAREER FUTURE, AND START TAKING STEPS TOWARD THAT...

NASW 2013 Show-Me Symposium

On March 16th, Pam Huggins and I will be speaking at the NASW 2013 Show-Me Annual Symposium in Lake Ozark, MO.  Here’s a description of our session: (4B) Mediate Because Families Are Fragile (1.5 clock hours) Pamela J. Huggins, MSW, ACSW, LCSW, Saint Louis University, St. Louis, MO Mediation as a method for divorcing couples can actually strengthen families. Through mediation sessions, couples can work out how they will co-parent and communicate with each other in the future. In this session, Ms. Papa, will describe the essence of divorce mediation and relate many examples from her years as a mediator, divorce attorney, and national mediation trainer. Ms. Huggins will elaborate on her beginning work in mediation and how social work skills are key to being an effective mediator. Click here for more information and to download a registration form for this year’s Symposium.  Hope to see you in March!...

When “Marriage Counseling” Turns into “Divorce Counseling”

It’s no secret that not all couples undergoing marriage counseling are successful.  Sometimes divorce is inevitable.  However, when a mental health professional sees that “marriage counseling” is turning into “divorce counseling,” they do not have to end their relationship with the couple and send them off to divorce attorneys.  The counselor is a wonderful resource who can provide continuity of treatment while the couple goes through the legal process of divorce.  This concept is called “Team Mediation,” and professionals in the St. Louis area have begun using this process with great success. Team Mediation can begin in the mental health professional’s office.  Once the mental health expert has identified that divorce is indeed unavoidable, he or she can recommend that the couple hire a “team” to help them through the divorce process.  This team consists of a mental health professional, an attorney/mediator and a certified financial planner. The couple meets with the attorney/mediator to devise a plan for living apart and to draft the required legal documents.  The attorney, in the role of mediator, uses mediation skills to help the couple settle their divorce issues in a cooperative manner.  The desired result is to reach an agreement without having to go to court. Obviously, the certified financial planner is extremely important in helping the couple obtain a clear picture of their financial situation, which in turn, sets up parameters for discussion about maintenance, child support and the future cash flow needs of the parties.  The certified financial planner can also undertake the difficult job of valuing retirement accounts and pensions along with determining the true value of the parties’...