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ICA Annual Conference 2012, Springfield, IL

Hello friends!  I’m excited to be speaking at the ICA Annual Conference in Springfield! If you’re planning on attending the conference, please join me for a workshop: The ‘ABCs’ of Resolving Relational Conflict, November 9th from 10:30 a.m. – 11:20 a.m..  We will look at Interest-Based Negotiation techniques and why they are helpful in successfully resolving couples’ conflicts.  I’ll also talk about Dr. Gottman’s Four Horsemen model, and how to use his findings to teach your clients respectful ways to communicate.  Even if you can’t salvage the marriage, the techniques learned in this workshop can be used in Divorce Mediation to help couples come to agreements and to teach them ways to co-parent that will be infinitely useful to them post-divorce.   Be sure to also come by the Divorce Whisperer® booth for information on Divorce Mediation, and upcoming Mediation trainings.  I’d love to make your acquaintance and answer any questions you may have about the Mediation process and its benefits.     Can’t wait for the conference to begin!  Hope to see you there!  –...

Conflict Resolution Day

October is here, and the leaves are changing, taking on beautiful autumn hues.  October is also Conflict Resolution Month, when we are encouraged to take a step back and look at any changes that might be necessary for our lives to also be beautiful.  We need time each year to evaluate the results of the decisions we have made earlier in the year and whether we are on the right track for the future.  This requires reviewing our goals and making sure we are taking steps to meet our top priorities.  It just so happens that many of my divorce mediation clients are at exactly the same place in the mediation process, reviewing their past in order to make choices that create a different future.  Taking steps to resolve conflict in our lives seems to be at the center of our decisions, right now.  When asked to focus on what is really important, most of my clients agree that it is “relationships”.  Relationships with spouses, children, family, neighbors, our entire community.   I just finished a mediation consult with a couple who proudly informed me that the had acquired millions of dollars worth of property throughout their long marriage and wondered if they would have much conflict dividing it all.  I reminded them that mediation is the best way to “divide it all”.  But it wasn’t until I mentioned their ability to get along affecting whether or not they could both visit their grandchildren at the same time that tears welled up in both client’s eyes.  Clearly, what was most important to them was their ability to maintain a relationship...